Are you the child or spouse of someone who has been stricken with an illness or injury and who needs to apply for Social Security Disability benefits in North Carolina?
Most of the research material online focuses on what applicants need to do to maximize chances of best results. But caregivers often do the lion’s share of the work–helping hurt/sick family members fill out forms, find Social Security Disability law firms, manage finances, get and administer your medications, etc.
Here are answers to 3 common questions that you probably have.
Question #1: What are all the projects that I need to manage with respect to my relative or friend’s situation?
Avoid doing this in your head! Use a pen and paper or a Word document to “dump out” all of your thinking about these topics. Spend at least 30 minutes–if not longer–just writing down any random thoughts about what you think you should do; who could help and how; and so forth. Really do a brain dump. Don’t worry about editing yourself at this stage.
Once you have completed that exercise, give yourself a break. Then come back later and do the analytical work. Figure out what projects need to come first, what you can do to speed up projects or bypass them all together. Look for shortcuts and opportunities. Think about what company or which people can help you manage the problems.
The general rule here is before you dive in action, do some serious thinking about your project plans. Don’t worry about getting the plans perfect. Plans change, obviously. But it always pays to have planned.
Question #2: How can I take care of myself while taking care of another person who needs my assistance 24/7?
Unfortunately, caregivers of sick people, like parents of young kids, often fail to recognize their own needs. They get so caught up in helping that they forget to sleep, forget to eat well, forget to relax, etc. You are a human being. You need to treat yourself well. This is not just “feel good” advice.” You need to treat yourself well because, if you’re not rested, nourished, and alert, you can’t take optimal care of the person who needs your help.
By taking care of yourself, you are actually taking care of the other person.
That sounds good in theory. But what happens when your needs conflict with the other person’s needs? That may happen–potentially a lot. There is no “out of a bottle” solution. Do your best. Be compassionate with yourself. Be compassionate with the other person. Recognize that this arrangement will not last forever–or at least it shouldn’t last forever.
Again, if you get stuck or overwhelmed–if you feel emotionally “off kilter”–take some time to rest and think. The amount of time that you spend thinking from a place of restful clarity will give you back the same amount of time and then some. In other words, if you spend two hours doing some really good thinking about how to help your friend or loved one, you will “earn back” at least two hours’ worth of time to tackle other projects in your life because of the efficiency that you will gain.
Question #3: How can I get help immediately with all my other questions?
This blog post is obviously way too short–and too impersonal–to answer all of your mission critical questions about what to do, how to do it, what not to do, and beyond. Please consider picking up the phone and calling the DeMayo Law team today for insightful guidance and a free evaluation of your Social Security Disability case.